Just One Thing: Working on Our Marriage
During our weekend date, Matt and I talked about the “One
Thing” we each wanted the other person to work on in our marriage. Matt wants
me to work on making more time to hang out with each other in the evening. I
can get so focused on my work (and enjoy it a lot); it can leave him feeling
left out.
Thing” we each wanted the other person to work on in our marriage. Matt wants
me to work on making more time to hang out with each other in the evening. I
can get so focused on my work (and enjoy it a lot); it can leave him feeling
left out.
As a side note, we are saving up money for an inexpensive
hot tub. I did an experiment last winter where every day I would ask, “If we
had a hot tub, would you want to go in it right now?” Our answer was most often
“yes.” My idea is that a hot tub is an awesome way to connect with one’s
partner. For us, it’s different than playing games because games require a lot
of thought and aren’t the most relaxing. It’s different than watching TV or a
movie because it involves talking to each other. Long story short, I’m looking
forward to saving up enough money to get an inexpensive hot tub to facilitate
connection. In the meantime, we’ve decided to try turning out the light 30
minutes earlier than we normally would, so that we leave more time to talk. If
we turn the light off exactly at bedtime, we end up feeling like we shouldn’t
talk too long or else we’ll be exhausted in the morning.
hot tub. I did an experiment last winter where every day I would ask, “If we
had a hot tub, would you want to go in it right now?” Our answer was most often
“yes.” My idea is that a hot tub is an awesome way to connect with one’s
partner. For us, it’s different than playing games because games require a lot
of thought and aren’t the most relaxing. It’s different than watching TV or a
movie because it involves talking to each other. Long story short, I’m looking
forward to saving up enough money to get an inexpensive hot tub to facilitate
connection. In the meantime, we’ve decided to try turning out the light 30
minutes earlier than we normally would, so that we leave more time to talk. If
we turn the light off exactly at bedtime, we end up feeling like we shouldn’t
talk too long or else we’ll be exhausted in the morning.
My “one thing” for Matt is for him to keep our kitchen
counter clean. He tends to use it as a “landing pad” for miscellaneous
things, and the clutter makes me feel stressed.
counter clean. He tends to use it as a “landing pad” for miscellaneous
things, and the clutter makes me feel stressed.
I think I’ll add our “one thing” items to a list that we
revisit occasionally. When we feel like we’ve each mastered the “one thing”
that was asked of us, we can tackle another item!
revisit occasionally. When we feel like we’ve each mastered the “one thing”
that was asked of us, we can tackle another item!
4 Comments
Shawn
Love this idea and great picture! Thanks for continuing to share and inspire in this space.
saracotner
Thank you for your kind words, Shawn! It's so fun to be connected to folks like you.
Aimee Fagan
Would you share what hot tub you have been looking at? That is something my husband and I have been thinking about too!
saracotner
Hi, Aimee! We are looking at some on Wayfair.com. The prices have gone up now that the weather is getting cooler 🙁