When I was in my twenties, I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I was really eager to figure it out! It occurred to me that I should collect “moments of authenticity” as if they were the most beautiful butterfly specimens. My thinking went: if I collect and save each small moment that really resonates with me, I might be able to find patterns. Then I can intentionally build the kind of life I want for myself.

Now that I’m in my forties I’ve tried to switch from building my life to savoring it. And yet I find that living our best lives does require us … Read More